Tuesday, April 23, 2019

5 Ways to Feel Normal When You Have Psoriatic Arthritis

At 23 years old, most people are out having fun. At least, I think that’s what they’re doing. That’s not what my life was like. I was trying to figure out how I was going to have a normal life despite the onset of psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis. I had never seen a person my age struggle to life her foot to the curb.

Most people who know me have heard this before. During that time in my life when I was so young, I went to Wal-Mart to pick up my prescription. Pushing my cart through the aisles was the only way that I could easily walk, but I was still hunched over it, like I would have imagined an elderly person. That’s certainly not the way a young person has to navigate through a store. A friend I had not seen in many years walked over to me and asked what was wrong. When I told her that I have psoriatic arthritis, her words to me hit hard. “Arthritis? But you’re so young!” Yes. Yes I was. How many years was this pain going to be with me? Is this what the rest of my life will be like? What am I going to do??

It’s been 27 years since then. I have certainly had my share of challenges, but nothing as desperate as it seemed that day. Since then, I had a daughter who is now a teenager. I take advantage of my good days and give myself a break on my not so good days. Here are a few things that I have learned along the way to help myself feel more normal.

  • Rest when you need to rest. When I want to do something, it’s hard for me to make the decision to stay home and take care of myself. But this is important. Every time I defy my body, I regret it. The pain sticks around longer. The fatigue becomes impossible to push through. Your body knows what you need and will demand that you listen to it!
  • Play when you can play. If you’re having a good day, take advantage of it when you can. Go for a walk, take the kids to the park or do something more adventurous. You might not be able to do what you once did, but you’ll appreciate the opportunity to feel normal. Just remember not to overdo it.
  • Find what makes you feel good. People have lots of recommendations, but you need the ones that will work for you. Mine is a hot shower. People have told me for years that heat will only make inflammation worse. I questioned whether I should do it. I finally decided that I’m not going to let anyone deprive me of the one thing that always makes me feel better. Some prefer an ice pack, heating pad, an Epson salt bath or a short walk. Find what makes you feel good and use it.
  • Tell people close to you. I know there are many people who don’t want anyone to know about their psoriatic arthritis, so they try to hide it. Except that it’s hard to hide this disease. Even if your psoriasis is under control, when you’re actively in pain, people notice. If you share with people, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that most of them will be understanding. There will always be people who won’t, but if they won’t be compassionate when they know what you’re suffering from, they certainly won’t be any more compassionate when they see you struggling but don’t know why. I think you’ll find that if you let those around you know what’s going on, they will offer help (accept it!) and they might even ask you questions about it. This is a great opportunity for you to educate others about this disease. I love when people ask me questions about psoriatic disease!
  • Accept help when you need it. If you’re struggling, there is no shame in letting someone help you. For the longest time, I felt that it made me weak to let someone help me. Fortunately, there are great options available now when we can’t do things for ourselves. After my total knee replacement surgery last year, when my family was away at school and work, I’d order groceries using Prime Now or Instacart. I got myself to doctors’ appointments and physical therapy using Uber. Grubhub was a perfect way to get the delicious meal I wanted but couldn’t go get. And there is no guilt associated with this method!

Are there ways that you learned to make your life with PsA easier? 



  1. I keep reading your blogs and you provide awesome information. Here’s my story I am diagnosed with psoriatic-arthritis and sacrolitis 6 months ago. For me walking was pain due to hip/sacrolitic joint inflammation , toe inflammation giving me pain.I got scared and after visiting rheumatologist I started medicines and along with them came side effects. I decided to risk and try out natural way and recently started holistic/ayurveda healing process as i felt I have life long to take the prescribed medicines by doctor. So far I see fatigue going away and pain reduction from 7/10 to 2/10. I rest a lot and eat only when I am hungry. I do breathing exercises to relieve from mental stress. For now i stopped pain killers and going good. I follow good diet regime. So far good, hope to see a complete reduction in pain . But I like the idea of play when feeling good but whenever i do physical work i see some pain and on resting it goes away. I totally agree hot shower is helpful and I do it everyday. Your experience is helpful and please let me know your thoughts. Thank you

    1. I'm so glad that you find my blog helpful!! It's great that you're having so much success without medication. You may want to have your doctor check any progression of joint damage, as sometimes you can have that without pain. Good luck for continued success, Shashi!


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